Consent:
permission for something to happen or agreement to do something (dictionary.com)
Do all of your intimate energy exchanges have verbal consent from both parties?
This means both people have agreed to interacting in this way together
Spoken agreements
This does not include- her body was saying yes, I asked her psychically and heard a yes, she was seducing me therefore i knew she wanted it
Consent is super important
I like to discuss verbally with my partners how they are feeling and where the boundaries lie before being intimate.
Creating safe containers for people to share vulnerably and feel safe to be heard is important. If boundaries are discussed beforehand then when things get really hot and your in the moment- you always know where it is safe to be and can fully let go. This is of course assuming that both parties are trustworthy to uphold the boundaries.
Men- please, please, please listen to this-
If it is your first few times being intimate with a partner- it is common courtesy to verbally ask permission before entering a woman’s yoni with your linguim. The penius penitration is a whole different level than penetration of anything else. I don’t care what she has said you could put up in there- if your dick has never entered her vagina-
THERE GETS TO BE VERBAL CONSENT
It doesn’t take long to stop kissing and for a moment say, “Are you comfortable with this?
Do you want to do this?”
When I am intimate with someone- I have a rule of no entering the holy temple for the first time with your penis useless permission is granted.
This is no joke- this is a holy and sacred act that deserves the utmost respect.
I explained this to a lover one time- and he agreed. Basically- if there is an attraction there, if there is kissing- this boundary will be spoken. Boundaries are the first thing that gets to be established before any intimate interactions. I will let a man know right from the start- this is as far as I am willing to go- if you are expecting to get laid tonight- find another lover, Permission to enter the temple is holy and sacred and i don’t take it lightly.
i like to lay down the rules of the game before we start playing. That way I can completely let go into the moment- knowing that this person honors and respects my boundaries.
Well- after a few hours of hot interaction with this person I suddenly realize his penis is inside of me-
“What the FUCK? What are you Doing?”
“You acted like you were enjoying it- so I thought it would be ok”
This is so messed up people-
if a girl enjoys your fingers- that is not giving permission for your penius to enter.
There must be verbal consent!!!
Entering a woman’s body is like entering a holy temple. If you are granted access into the temple- you must abide by her rules. When entering you may be asked to cover yourself. Entering without protection is for those few who have proven they are worthy. She is a holy and sacred place and her cleanliness is important. Taking care of the temple means only letting in those who will honor and respect her rules, those who are clean and pure, and those who will take good care of the her.
Another time I had a partner that had a boundary break down in the middle of being intimate. He wanted to penetrate without protection. We had clearly discussed this boundary that evening before things got hot. And then in the middle of making out- we break into a lengthy discussion- he is testing my boundaries and trying to upgrade his ticket in the middle of the flight. This is such a buzzkill- i was nearly brought to tears because in the middle of the game one of the players wants to change the rules and suddenly the game is not cool and whoever decided the rules to it should lighten up and make it more exciting.
If you do not like the rules of the game- Find someone else to play with!
Rules are best established before things get really hot and there is absolutely no shaming in the middle of the intimate exchanges because you want to change the rules then. Specific consent was given- and now is not the time for pushing boundaries. If you want to ask one question, “is this ok- and she says yes and feels good about it- well boundaries are moveable and negotiable. But if there is ANY hesitation in her response- please go back to the beginning and return to the boundaries that were agreed upon- the time for establishing boundaries is not when things are supper intimate.
What about self pleasure. Are you clean in your mind when you are connecting with your holy body? This is something that is not talked about often and is really important. Orgasims are powerful. Sexual energy is powerful and cultivating respect, honor and devotion is important. When i was little I used to masterbate thinking of some movie star or hot person on TV. I had never met this person, but I had a ‘crush’ on them. I thought on some level you were supposed to think of a partner as if you were having sex and given the fact that I had no boyfriend- it seemed logical to think about some famous heart throb.
Lets go over this- when a woman orgasims it is super powerful. You can harness this energy in a positive way for manifesting and healing. It is important to not give your power away. If you are thinking of someone else while masterbating- you are on some level sending them your energy. What if they don’t want your energy? Do you have a relationship with that person? Have you asked permission to exchange intimate energy with them? And if you are in a relationship with someone- are you clean in your mind while being intimate? If you are thinking of another person while orgasiming- that creates a disruption in the partnership. If you want to connect with your higher self/God/Goddess/the Universe- that is one thing but drawing in another person’s energy while being intimate with someone else gets very messy. This may seem weird to some people at first but this is important energy work. Do you contain and cultivate your own energy? Or are you projecting your energy onto others- maybe even without their consent.
With every single act in life we get to look at how we are living, What are our boundaries and how are we working with the energy. If I do not have a verbal agreement with someone it is not appropriate for me to be thinking of them while doing anything sexual. That means disciplining your mind not to wander to them while your having sex with someone else or while you are self pleasuring. When you are single and not in a relationship with someone- then that is the perfect time to cultivate your power and your connection with yourself. All the self pleasure you do can be in devotion to God/Goddess, can be connecting with your higher self, it can be healing you and your body. It can be whatever you want it to be- but it gets to be done with integrity and clean energetic boundaries.
The deeper one goes into these mysteries the more important boundaries and agreements are. Energetic hygiene is just as important as physical hygiene.
Worshiping the Goddess is a sacred and holy act. There gets to be boundaries and agreements. If you want to enter the holy temple of the divine you get to learn the ways of the Goddess. Her priestesses are the gatekeepers and you must prove your worthiness, your devotion and your honor.
Her secrets are not for everyone-
this is sacred medicine.